This photo session was gifted to me by Jenfolio Portrait Art as part of her Mother’s Day Mini Sessions at Hamburg Pavilion. If you’re looking for a photographer in the central Kentucky area, be sure to check Jenny out! You can also check her Facebook page for upcoming dates for her Father’s Day Mini Sessions.
I am a working mom. Actually, I’m a mom, attorney, blogger, and wife. So what’s it like being a working mom?
First, let me give you a little background information. I graduated from law school at 25 years old. After graduation in May of 2012, I immediately started working as part of an in-house legal team for a family of related businesses. I sat for the bar exam in July, started my MBA online in August, and found out I had passed the bar in late September. Then, five days after passing the bar, I found out that I was pregnant with Kane.
In case you’re wondering, Kane was a planned pregnancy. I know many women wait until later in their careers to have children, and that’s cool, but I didn’t want to delay starting a family. I knew from the get-go that it wouldn’t be easy, and I was okay with that. And I never pictured myself as a stay-at-home mom (not that there’s anything wrong with that either!). Not that it would matter, because I have to work to pay student loans. As moms, we all have choices we make, and sometimes the choices are made for us.
Fast-forward 18-months later and I launched my blog. Since then, the blog has grown and become a business of it’s own. At this point, the term “working mom” is a little bit of an understatement. I hustle alot. And I give everything my all. Whatever I’m working on at any point of time gets my all in the moment that I’m working on it. Yes, it can be overwhelming, but somehow, I, along with working moms everywhere, make it work.
Some people think that you can’t be a mom and a career woman, especially when you’re in a highly demanding field like law or medicine. I disagree. My selection of what I wanted was “all of the above,” so I went for it.
The #1 question I get asked as a busy working mom is “How do you do it all?”
First, let me be clear that I never stop to think about how I do it all, or I would realize that it’s utterly impossible to do everything I do and yet I do it anyways. And I think the same holds true for many working moms.
As a working mom, you do what has to be done. You somehow manage to to stretch 26-hour days into a 24-hour time span (where is Hermione Granger’s time turner when you need it?!). You learn that you go with the flow–sometimes one area needs more attention than another. You give everything your all the same as you’ve always done.
To be able to do it all, you also learn grace. It’s okay when sometimes you have to dive to catch one of the ball’s you’re juggling. It’s okay if you don’t have the Pinterest-perfect dream home because no one ever includes all those piles of laundry in their neatly styled pictures. It’s okay if your dry shampoo to hair ratio is upside down.
Let’s be honest–something has to give. In being a working mom, you have to realize that while you can have it all, you can’t do everything.
By the time we get home, it is later in the evening. Evenings are precious time to spend together as a family, and I also fit in my blogging in the evenings. So I don’t cook. We will sometimes prepare light meals at home, but we eat out for the vast majority of our meals. There, I said it. I don’t cook. My mom acts like I’m airing the dirty laundry when I say that.haha But seriously–find time-consuming tasks that you can eliminate and do just that if you’re able to!
Above all, a working mom has to be flexible. Take the planner and throw it out the window–more than likely, it will be destroyed in some fashion anyways. My schedule is an ever-moving animal that I just roll with, and it works.
Finally, a working mom has to prioritize, and realize at the end of the day what’s most important. I love my job as an attorney, and I am super dedicated to it. But at the same time, I make sure to make time to go to Kane’s celebrations at daycare because that’s what’s important to me. I make we do family dinner dates because that’s what’s important to me. I also fit in time for myself to relax, because at the end of the day, working moms have to take care of themselves in order to take care of everything else.
So to my fellow working moms, way to go! It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. At the end of a long day of hustling or being stressed, there’s nothing better than your child’s arms wrapping around your neck and hearing a sweet “I love you so much, Mom.” Being a mom is the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.
Remember, we’re all in this together!