This picture is a little grainy, but I love it. It shows two parents in the wild on an actual date night!haha A couple of weekends ago, Chauncey and I had our first true date night in quite awhile. We went to dinner at a nice restaurant with no kids climbing in our laps, had drinks at our friends’ bar, and went to a concert. It was so nice and refreshing. We were able to connect and focus on just the two of us. Every time we have a date night, we wonder why it’s been so long since the last one.
Life can be a hot mess. Chauncey and I have always been busy people, but add in two full-time, demanding jobs, two kids, and a side hustle, and it makes things a little crazy. It’s so easy to get so caught up in being professionals and parents that we forget about being partners in a romantic relationship. Can you relate to that?
It seems like there just isn’t enough hours in the day to do everything we need to do and be everything we need to be. Oftentimes, it’s our romantic relationship that takes the backseat and gets pushed aside. And why is that?
Our romantic relationship/partnership is the foundation of all we have. Everything we have now all started with just us–two people who fell in love with each other, despite our faults. If you want to continue to see your relationship pay dividends, then you should make a conscious effort to continually reinvest in your romantic relationship.
When Chauncey and I aren’t making those relationship investments like we should, it not only shows, but it negatively impacts all other areas of our lives as well. It’s an additional stress on all areas of our lives. And many times, it happens before you realize it. You don’t focus on each other because you’re having a busy day, but a day quickly turns into a week, and a week into a month. Before long, you’re wondering how you got to your current place of disconnect.
So don’t forget about date night. I don’t care how long you’ve been with your partner, you STILL need to schedule date nights. I know, it can be hard to schedule date night. Date night may even seem silly and frivolous to some of you. To others, it may be seen as a unnecessary expense or too time consuming. Or you may even think you have more important things to do than to waste your time on date night.
You’re wrong. Date night is a necessity for your relationship to thrive. Because you know what? Life gets easier when you have a connected partner as opposed to a disconnected one. By taking time to invest in your relationship and continually reconnecting, you’ll be happier and less stressed.
AND LISTEN UP: Even if you’re parents, date night is STILL important (and maybe even moreso). Do not use your kids as an excuse not to go on date night. Yes, it can be hard to get a sitter. Yes, it can be hard to find time. Do it anyways. Kids can pick up on clues from their parents when something is off. Show them what a good relationship should look like, and they’ll have a better chance of having a great relationship themselves when they get older.
Doing date night doesn’t have to be an elaborate production. You don’t have to go to a fancy restaurant or an expensive show. Simply make time for your partner and let them know that they are important to you! This could be cuddling up in bed to watch a movie or show. It could be working on something together or taking a walk. But do it. Talk with one another. Hold hands.
Chauncey and I don’t do this nearly enough, but we do realize the importance of date night. I challenge each of you who are in a relationship to join us in making a commitment to more date nights.